Am I still a virgin?

I always assumed that being a virgin meant not having intercourse until I read this in the sex and dating section here, "Intercourse is physical sexual contact between individuals that involves the genitalia of at least one person." What about web cam sex? Would I still be a virgin because it wasn't technically "physical"?

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my viewpoint
by: cassandra

ok, so here's my viewpoint--you can take it or leave it.
sex is sex, no matter what. there's a reason why its called webcam sex, or phone sex, or whatever, and not something else.i recently had to get out of a relationship that i thought would last forever, and did have the potential, but i know it wouldn't have been a godly relationship..what happened what he was wanting to get too physical way too fast. i told him only kissing--no touching, nothing else--only for my future husband, and he said, yeah, yeah, ok that's me..it wasn't him..our make-out sessions kept getting more and more intense on his part til i had to keep pulling away and it got to the point i was afraid b/c i wasn't giving him what he wanted..anyway my point being i kept feeling this little voice inside my head/heart--call it my conscience or whatever you want, but i'm calling it God talking to me trying to get my attention--what the voice said was "if you saw Me in this car right now would you still be doing this? would I be pleased with you? because I am in this car" and He really was and still is in my car..so think of it this way--if God were in whatever room your webcam is in--your bedroom or whatnot--would He be pleased and approve of what you're doing? b/c He IS in there with you..if you're really a Christian, then wherever you are, He is
no
by: Shea

Although the world will tell you that sex is only intercourse, it's not true. Sex is oral, it is porn and even masturbation. Sex is any sexual release. Every time you have that sexual release, you create a bond with that person whether it is physically or imagining them in your head.

I was addicted to porn, masturbation and cyber sex throughout my teen years. As I was doing this, never did I imagine it would have an effect on my marriage. I thought that as long as I didn't "go all the way" that it was okay. Your brain can train itself to what will turn you on. My brain has trained me to think that I need to think about or watch porn in order to get turned on. When your brain is trained to think that way, it tells you that your future spouse isn't enough. No matter how long ago it was when you last saw those sexual images; they are engrained into your head.

Believe me, I'm 25 and my brain still tries to tell me that. It's a struggle, but it used to be a lot worse. Only God has brought me this far. I prayed for a year about the lack of intimacy that my marriage was having. But with God's help, we were able to obtain that special intimacy that God has created. It is like nothing else. I hope this answers your question.

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