dating a nonbeliever

by Bethany
(Logan County)

Hey, its Beth. I went to Worldview Warriors and i loved it but i have a question ... i am dating this guy he is not a christian and he believes in evolution and i have been praying for about 3 months and God still hasn't sent anything to show that i should break up with him .. i think i should because i have gotten cussed out a lot by him because i couldn't come see him .. but i want to stay with him cause i am so much closer to his family than i am to mine and i am afraid to lose that... what should i do

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Same Boat
by: Courtney Bunin

Beth,I know how you feel. I am going through with the same exact thing. And ive been praying alot about it lately. I also went to Worldview Warriors on December 11-12th and it opened my eyes,which got me thinking more about if i should break up with him. and i dont know what to do.
Unequally Yoked
by: S'ambrosia

Beth,
I think a lot of times we expect God to send us this huge sign when we ask Him for direction, but it seems like He's always silent. This is because He's already given us direction through His Word.

The conviction you felt at the conference and the fact that you've been praying about it for 3 months shows me that you know your answer. Want God's answer?? Look it up in the Bible. You've heard the scripture about being unequally yoked, right? I challenge you to meditate on that and see what God impresses on your heart.

I don't know this guy's family, but I don't think that they would cast you out because you chose not to date their son anymore. If they do, then they're not the type of people you need in your life. He obviously isn't the type of person you need in your life if he's cussing you out for not being able to see him. Sounds a little controlling to me...

I hope you allow your heart to respond to God's voice in this moment of your life, Beth. Don't let your emotions speak the louder word.
Been there
by: Anonymous

Hi Beth, I can honestly say that I have been there. I dated a guy that started out making me feel crummy because I couldn't come see him. I had to go to a school function that was required for my Choir, and he was ticked! Then I went to go see my dad one weekend and it blew up. He grabbed my arm hard enough to leave a bruise. I loved his family, and his mom is the one who finally got him to let go of me. But I can tell you from experience that it isn't worth it. When you find the guy that you are meant to be with, they will have a family too. Don't put yourself through the emotional abuse because of his family. Please.

Your sister in Christ.
Doing hard things...
by: Shelley

Beth,
I'm so glad God is working in your life and that you were impacted through the conference! That is always my prayer and hope when I am speaking at events like "Wake the Nations."

It sounds like you are in a situation where you may have to do some hard things. As you know, following Christ is not always easy. However, Jesus does promise to give us life and life to the fullest when we follow Him (John 10:10).

It also sounds like you already know what you need to do, but are having trouble doing it for fear of losing something important to you...a relationship with your boyfriend's family. I want to encourage you to trust God to provide for you...that when you do what is pleasing to Him, He can provide for ALL your needs. You may not see it right away, but that's where trust comes in.

(By the way, the scripture about being unequally yoked with nonbelievers can be found in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 if you want to re-read it.)

I also encourage you to guard your heart. It sounds like you may be in an unhealthy relationship where you could easily get hurt emotionally. Proverbs 4:23 (NLT) says, "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life."

You are not alone Beth and don't have to do things in your own power! When you are a follower of Jesus Christ, you have the empowerment of the Holy Spirit that can give you the courage you need to take the step of faith...and do hard things! Believe me, you won't regret living your life pleasing to God and in relationship with Him!

Fixing our eyes on Jesus,
Shelley

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