I need advice

I've been saving myself for marriage since I was a little girl. A few years ago, I verbally spoke that promise to God. I knew that making Him that promise would make sure I didn't have premarital sex. In my first semester of college I made the HUGE mistake of going home with a guy. We started off just making out. The room was pitch black so I didnt even know he was naked. Eventually, he moved my hands and motioned for me to give him a hand job. I was so inexperienced that I didn't really even know what I was doing or ever think to tell him no. I recently read on article on this site that says what I did is sexual intercourse. I'm so ashamed and upset that I did that and didn't even know. I feel so dirty and unpure now and it breaks my heart that I did this and can't take it back.

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God Forgives!
by: Shakail Moore- Dayton Ohio

I read your post and couldn't help but respond. We all sin and make mistakes but God is so loving and forgiving. You must forgive yourself first. Romans 3:23 says " for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.'' You must take this situation as a learning experience and move forward and keep trusting and prayering to God and he will show you the way. Take care and be blessed, God loves you despite what happened and always will!!!! <3
it's hard
by: Shea

I know exactly how you feel...shameful, guilty, disgusting.. I've been married for a couple of years and I still feel that way sometimes about my past. It is so hard to forgive yourself, especially when problems arise because of it. But it is important for you to forgive yourself. Pray that God will restore you, purify your mind and take away the shame and guilt. As Christians we are to be holy and blameless in His sight. I pray that you will depend on God for the strength to restrain from all sexual activities until marriage and that when you do marry, that God will have eliminated the bond you have created with that person. And that you will be whole and trusting with your husband so you can have that sexual intimacy that God has created.

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