it is okay to date older guys

by EMMMeRs
(wisconsin)

IS IT OK I LIKE OLDER GUYS?? AS IN 2-3 YEARS OLDER?? I HAVE ALWAYS LIKED GUYS OLDER THAN ME, I'M 14 AND IT'S WEIRD BUT OLDER GUYS SEEM TO "NOTICE" ME MORE OFTEN THEN GUYS MY AGE OR YOUNGER. IS THIS OK???and no, i don't ask for attention. EMMMeRS

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Older Guys
by: Anonymous

It is okay to like older guys, but you must remember that they have more experiences, more awareness, and are often more able to adapt, manipulate and dominate those who are less experienced, unaware of what they are really seeking from you.
I hope you will take this time and liking and invest it in yourself, you are maturing and should be learning about you, building yourself up, mastering your weaknesses and increasing your strength.
Remember most domestic abuse starts young in life, in unequally yoked relationships..simply because he is older may be a reason that gives him the thought that he is wiser and he is right.

Now is not the time, to be manipulated, dominated or controlled it could destroy your future.

Be careful and listen to those who are lovingly, protectively, & actively concerned about your well-being.
I agree with anonymous
by: Sarah

Dear Emmers,

I agree with the comment earlier from anonymous.

It is ok to date older guys, in fact age should not be a big consideration as long as the age gap is not too large.

But the more important factor is that are you ready to start dating? Do you know why you want to date boys? Is this God's plan for you?

You see, sometimes we think the older generation do not understand us or are just trying to stop us from having fun and enjoying life and following our own emotions and feelings. But often times, listening to those who love you actually helps you.

God loves you, and He tells us in His word to obey and honour our parents. And He warns us from dangers.

If you are not careful, you might hurt yourself more than help yourself if you start dating when you are not ready.

If dating makes you feel good and feel beautiful and important and popular, and you date just because of that, then please beware. You see, God intended dating to be for the sole purpose of marriage. Are you ready to be in search of the one person God has prepared for you to marry? Are you ready to open your eyes and check the character and personality of the boy before you date him, instead of just dating them for their looks or their popularity or what they say to you? Are you prepared to step out of the relationship when God tells you to? when you find that the boy is just trying to take advantage of you, or just using you to gain popularity?

You're in the middle of growing up and there's a lot to learn and observe. My advice is to learn, open your eyes and ears, and confide in those who love you and care for you.

And I pray God guides your every step in Him.

In Christ,
Sarah
slow down now...=)
by: shaniece

i think that it is okay to like older guys
but like the other women said you do have to be careful with who you get involved with if they are older than you and there are honestly a lot of older guys who know how to charm you and make it seem like they like you, but they really just want you for one reason. and no i dont mean just for sex but it culd be for more reasons as to why they want to be around you

i know that u have heard that a lot but i have met a lot of guys in high school that dont even really like girls for who they but they really are just using them. and i really do understand where you are coming from because i am only a year older then you or maybe even two if u just turned 14

i am not syaing that all older guys are like that
but im just telling you to be very careful in who you trust not only older guys but also guys your age
THANKS
by: EMMMeRS

HEY SHANIECE, IM ALMOST 15,IN 2 MONTHS. THANKS FOR YOUR COMMENTS. YOU KNOW I THINK YOU ALL MIS UNDERSTOOD ME, I DONT EVEN DATE!IM A HOMESCHOOLED FRESHMAN AND IM JUST BEGINING TO THINK ABOUT DATING.NEVER GOTTEN CLOSE WITH A GUY BEFORE. HONESTLY.YOU GUYS R GREAT SOUND LIKE NICE BIG SISTERS I DONT HAVE ANY BIG SISSYS BUT I DO HAVE 4 LITTLE ONES. SEE YA.
Be cautious
by: Sarah

Dear Emmers,

Do write in whenever you have questions to be answered or just need someone to hear your thoughts.

It's good that you haven't started dating, but we're just saying that you should be careful now, because you are starting to think about dating. Our heart is deceptive, God tells us to be careful of even our own heart, because nobody can understand it. And that is something you will come to learn in the next fews years. Your heart may tell you one thing, but be careful to check it with people who are older and sincerely care for you, especially people in the church as well.

You also have to be a good example to your 4 little sisters. Remember that they are watching your life. It may seem good or bad to you, but younger siblings always look up to and try to follow their older siblings in some way or other. So beware, that whatever you do, they may one day learn from you and do it to. So for your own sake and for theirs, be careful and think through everything that you do, and be careful to compare it and base it on the word of God, which is the only truth that we can believe.

This is an exciting part of your life, but also potentially very dangerous and could hurt your heart for a long time to come. Many people get hurt from relationships, and we all talk from experience. I just don't want to see you hurt.

Growing up is fun, but with it comes challenges and responsibilities as well.

I hope you continually pray to God and have a close relationship with Him, because that is the answer to all of life's problems.

Sarah
Proceed with extreme caution
by: Davonne

It’s natural for girls to like older boys – it’s exciting to think that we’re mature enough for someone a couple of years older to be interested! And, once we’re adults, the two to three years isn’t such a big deal. But, for now, I suggest proceeding with extreme caution. Think about the age you ideally want to be when you get married – if you want to get married when you’re 24, then you have ten years before your wedding day. If you start dating right now, that’s ten years of temptation in your face before you say “I Do.” It is extremely difficult to date for an extended period of time and remain pure.

Go here to see the rest of this answer (written by me), in article format: http://www.piercemyheart.com/2009/10/26/dating-liking-older-guys/

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