Lust? Modesty? Good Lookin' Guys?

by Carol
(Michigan)

I have 5 strappin (mom's fun name for them-and they laugh) young men in my house. They are saving their hearts and bodies for their wives. They have been curious about girls, and honestly, it's hard even for me NOT to look when a girl is wearing less that what she'd wear at the grocery store or going to the movies (chilly!). When I asked my 16 year old, blue eyes, 6'1", athletically built basketball player boy what kind of suit I should get to hang out at the lake. He said, one like "...." (I'll leave her name out). Well, "she" wears a cap sleave rash guard with a sports bra under it so she has a lot of support when jumping for balls. (He doesn't know that)and she wears board shorts that are only an inch or so above the knee. (She's about 5'10" so-finding long ones are a little hard). BUT-my sons love hanging out with her because they can enjoy her friendship and play WITHOUT getting stirred up before the proper time which would be when they marry their wives. I'm sure their wives would appreciate that and their children and grandchildren to come. They'll thank them for the strength and vision that they had and for passing it down to them. Building a strong foundation in relationships takes time, energy, a little money, and VISION. It's worth it. AND-when it's NOT ABOUT future relationships-it first should be about respecting yourself as well as others, just because you are a thoughtful and considerate person. XO