never love again..

ive been single for a year now and im not planning on dating anytime soon.ive always been the type of girl that has just been about one guy.when i like someone i dont need to have feelings for anyone else.my last boyfriend was really special.he and i both fell in love with God when we were together. as we began to fall in love with God we started to fall in love with eachother.we used to be real physical with eachother and we didnt care about purity.but when we turned to God we started having Bible studies on the phone together and praying and we slowly stopped doing impure things.we eventually got to the point of not even kissing...and that was hard.and what i loved about him was that most of the time it was him saying no and wanting purity.i remember times when i tried to kiss him and he would turn his head and kiss my forehead instead and say things like he wanted to save me till marriage and keep me pure.


but then things started changing when he switched schools.his school is right by mine so it wasnt a huge deal but things began to go back to how it used to be when we didnt have God.he would struggle with wanting other girls and lusting after me.so we started doing physical things again.and i would go home feeling empty.and eventually it was me saying no and wanting purity.but then things got bad and we grew apart.so we broke up.and its been a year since we've broken up and we dont talk anymore.but things have changed so much.i hear things about him going to crazy parties now and drinking. sometimes he and his stupid friends are the ones throwing the parties.and last time i saw him was on his myspace page alil bit after we broke up and he had videos of him doing stupid stuff that i would rather not say.and im more than sure that hes having sex and been with other girls.so hes really changed.but i still cant forget him.

guys have tried to talk to me but none of them interest me.my ex was what i wanted.the way he was with me is someone i could see myself with later on.but hes not that way anymore and im still hurt.i still have bible studies and pray but sometimes i feel like im never gonna have feelings for a guy the way i did for him and now my heart is just hardened.im scared to have feelings for another guy and i feel like im not good enough.cause the one i wanted didnt want me.

how do i get over this and what should i do?

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Seek Him first
by: Sarah

Hey there. You know we all go through a journey in this life, from before we know God, till we know God. And even after we know God, it is still a journey, because the enemy still constantly tries to tempt us to sin and to lie to us about our firm relationship with God. Although we know our Saviour and have been saved by grace through faith, everyday we still must make the choice to die to ourself, and to live only for Christ, and to make Him our purpose and goal in life.

People will always make mistakes, because we all aren't perfect. The only reason we can stand strong against the enemy is by God's grace. So I think the first thing you should recognize is that we are all weak and sinful, and we can all fall to sin. For the sins you have committed in the past and in the future, pray and ask God for forgiveness, and believe it, because He says that He is gracious and kind and has forgiven us of all our sins when Christ died on the cross. He no longer holds our sins against us.

The second thing you should do is to forgive those who have sinned against you, like your ex boyfriend. You have beautiful memories and experiences with him, but you also have painful memories and experiences. God doesn't want you to forget these, but to surrender all these and your life to God and to ask Him to take over. You see, God has a purpose for everything that happens. He teaches us things, and helps us to grow, through all our experiences, even the bad ones. Even though you may not see God's purpose now, continue to trust Him, that God will work all things together for those who love Him.

I also had a similar experience, that I felt my heart so hardened I thought I would never be able to open myself again and to love another like I used to. But it's really not up to me. God, in His own perfect timing and will, brought my husband into my life, and with His love, He touched me and put so much love into my heart that it just overflowed to every area of my life. I had an even greater capacity to love others than I ever knew I could. God is amazing, and He will work miracles in your life, so that you can be a testimony of His grace and power, if you would let Him.

I encourage you to pursue the One who really matters. Continue with your bible studies, go to church regularly, pray continuously, seek God first in everything, surround yourself with good Godly people and be accountable to someone. When you seek God first, everything else will fall into place. God always has His plan, and it's always a beautiful, wonderful plan.

In Christ,
Sarah
Trust Him
by: Lynndsi

I feel for you! I went through something similar a few years ago, and I know that it is incredibly hard. First of all, it is definitely hard to see someone you care so much about fall away from the beliefs they once had. I experienced this with an ex as well. I felt so sad that he had turned away from his faithfulness to God. Like your situation, he was all about staying pure and living a Godly life, and something happened and he began to live life as if he didn't know what was right. Pray for your ex-boyfriend, sometimes that is all you can do. Leave it in God's hands, because you can trust Him! Pray that he will bring Godly people into his life that remind him of the faith that he was once so passionate about.

I also relate to your feeling of never finding someone else that has the qualities your ex had. I felt this way once too, however, God knows what you want and he knows what you need. This you can count on. No matter how uncertain you are about finding someone else, trust that God has someone out there for you who will be what your ex was to you and MORE...someone who will stand strong in their faith as well. God's timing is perfect, and if it is his will He will bring this person into your life just at the right moment.

In the mean time, keep your eyes on Christ and pray that he will show you what his will is for your life. Work on the talents that he has given you and use them for Christ...and when the time is right, that person will come into your life and you will be ready! It may even be when you least expect it! :)

I'm praying for you! You'll get through this!

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