Part 2-He Makes Me Feel...

by Megan
(Hendesonville, NC, USA)


"Sex...sex...sex... that's all he wants from you. God loves you."


I repeated in my mind as he's screaming and crying. I held my breath and closed my eyes as i thought of the comments on this page that were so true and makes me think hard about this mysterious boy. Yet at this moment, i changed and spoke the words after he cried, "I love you"...

"I love you too"

That night i was the weakest i've ever been. We're back on now and i feel nervous and anxious about what he thinks about me and if he's flirting with another girl. Yet, when we're together it's totally blank. His cologne smells so good, i can't think. Anyways, I of coarse wonder the things every girl thinks.

"Am i kissing him the way he likes it?"

"Am i pretty enough?"

"Why did i just do that? He thinks i'm a moron now!"

He's so experienced in sex that it feels like anything i do isn't enough. Sex is the way to feel close and let him think i love him. The thing is i don't even know if i do love him. I'm not a girl that's all for that lovey-dovey stuff.

I'm absolutely not for sex until marriage. You're not patient to be able to wait for a man\woman that really truly loves you to enjoy, not worry about, sex with. We all might get in the mood, but why can't we wait for REAL love?

I don't know what to do! I'm am so confused and feeling "faked-loved" it's making me so rebellious. I've never felt like this and been so weak ever. God loves me truly but why does it not feel like it? I miss him SO much with this sexual feeling fighting against each other. I want God more than ever!

Please, please help and thanks a lot!

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love is patient love is kind
by: Miranda

I've actually experienced the same thing your going through right now..but i let my guard down, and i did things with this particular boy that im not proud of. I thought i wasnt good enough, so by doing these things would win him over..but in the end if its not ment to work out, no matter what you do, it wont work out. God had the perfect prince charming for you. Dont let a guy run your life. God has opened my eyes, the hardest thing was letting go of this guy because i was sexually involved with him..thank goodness i kept my virginity, because God wants us to share that special gift with the one person He made for us. In the end its all going to be worth it. Keep your head up and hang in there. Pray about it, and rely on the bible. :)
Spiritual Warfare part 1
by: Sarah

Dear Megan,

Really felt sad to read your message. I read your first part the last time but didn't respond because there were already many good comments and advice given by the other girls. But this time, I feel God leading me to write to you.

I know that you are feeling weak, emotionally because you like this guy and want to be with him but yet know that something's not right with the relationship. At the same time, you feel weak also against the temptation of the enemy. Megan you must be strong! You cannot, absolutely must not, give in to the temptation of sex before marriage or compromise your own principles and promises to God, or disobey anything that God has instructed us to do. Because that is exactly what the enemy wants you to do!

First you must recognize that this attack on your emotions and strength and to tempt you is from the enemy.

James 1:13-14
When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.

Next is to take on the strength of God, submit yourself fully to God, and give up struggling, but give in to God and beg Him to take over your life and situation. God will give you the strength.

1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

Hebrews 2:18
Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.

Next you have to read and dwell in the Word of God, and when the enemy tempts you, you use the Word of God to defend and attack back. If you read about Jesus being tempted, this is what He did as well.

Matthew 4:10
Jesus said to him, "Away from me, Satan! For it is written: 'Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only.'"

Then keep continuously praying, even during times when you do not feel the temptation. This is a spiritual warfare.

Matthew 26:41
"Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak."

Luke 22:46
"Why are you sleeping?" he asked them. "Get up and pray so that you will not fall into temptation."

Megan, I am concerned and I speak from experience. Because I know how terrible it can feel. And when you feel weak, sometimes you will just give in and find excuses for your actions. But this displeases God. God is here, and God is watching. But God loves you and will provide a way out. He did it for me and He can do it for you. I had to cry and fall to my knees and surrender myself wholly to God and tell Him how weak I was and how weak my flesh was but how I wanted to follow His ways. And He made me strong. He gave me strength to say no, and He reduced my sexual desires before marriage. He helped me control and overcome victoriously, and He can help you as well.

(continued)
Spiritual Warfare part 2
by: Sarah

(continued from previous msg)

I will be praying for you, Megan. But you have to pray too.

And Megan, I personally do not think this guy is for you. He does not respect or love you the way He should. God says the husband should love his wife as God loved the church! He should give himself up for her and be prepared to die for her. The right man should not make you feel small and insecure, unsure if you are being loved. But he should build you up as a woman and love you unconditionally, looking to protect you in every way, and helping you to fulfill God's calling in your life. I urge you to carefully, prayerfully, consider each step and your actions before God.

Remember, God is here, whether we feel Him or not. And He listens to our prayers.

In Christ,
Sarah
I've Won
by: Megan

Hey,
Your comments are so sweet and thoughtful. I greatly thank you yet... i've let go! One night when i was talking to my best friend about life, a sensation came to me as we were talking about my issues. It all came out to God. I've felt him workin. Yet this boy that has caused much drama is very angry but i'm being strong and saying peacfully but firm,
"It's my time with God."
He doesn't understand but that doesn't matter cuz i got a prince out there that'll truly love me and most of all i got God! I hope my stories can relate to anyone that has the same problem as i did, and that the comments can welcome your mind to strength and knowing that there's ALWAYS GOD THAT'LL LOVE YOU!
Might not know ya, but love ya'll. You've helped so much!
-Megan (Author of He Makes Me Feel)
So Glad!
by: S'ambrosia

Hey Megan,
I'm so glad to hear about the breakthrough that you had! I praise God for speaking to you and for strengthening you to withstand sexual temptation. I meant to respond sooner, but I like to print the articles off and pray over them and write my responses down before typing them on here (I'm kind of old fashioned that way, lol). I'm going to go ahead and type what I wrote simply to further encourage you to maintain your freedom in the Lord.

"You've highlighted, within your personal life, a war that has been going on for ages: flesh versus spirit. You know that God really loves you and you desire to submit yourself to His love, but sometimes lust will rise in your flesh and you'll want to submit to it too. The best help that I can give you in that arena is to feed your spirit and starve your flesh! If you truly want God more than ever, go after Him! Seek Him in the quiet place and read the Word (try reading Psalms). Build your faith up so when temptations come, you can say 'no' to your flesh every time it tries to rise up."

Be encouraged, Megan:0) The enemy will try to come after you many more times after this, so be sure to cultivate your walk with the Lord so you're on a firm foundation and cannot be easily shaken! I'm praying for you girl!
God does Love you
by: Star_Marie

Hi,
Sex is a strong pull on us when we have been giving that part of ourselves to another person. Unfortunately, sex does not equal love. And God made sex to be shared in marriage.

This is for our own protection, for it to be with someone who truly is committed to us and loves us for us, and not for what they can get, like the sex.

Getting out of a relationship, especially where sex is involved, is very difficult. I know from first hand experience. And I was weak as well. I knew that it wasn't what was right, but I couldn't break free. It took a long time and took God to make things change.

But it's true that God loves you just the same. God loves us no matter what we have done, and we are worth everything to Him. When we let go of someone, especially when sex is involved, we can feel like our world is ending. But it's only the beginning of freedom.

Sex doesn't mean love. And a guy who loves someone treats them with respect.

Do you have a trusted friend who you can talk about this with?

God loves you so much that He died for you. All you need to do is accept Him and He forgives us of all our things. We can never be perfect and yet He loves us just the same.

He loves you so much!

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