Pressured to have sex

What if your boyfriend wants to have sex but you don't believe in it and u really love him and can't just leave him. Would it be ok to have sex anyway?

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Don't be afraid to tell him "No"
by: Shelley

That's a good question you asked. First of all, I want to ask you if you have a relationship with Jesus and want to honor God in your relationships? If you do, then there are certain standards God has for us that we need to keep in mind with our relationships....not to make life more difficult and take the joy and fun out of it, but to give us the most enjoyment possible out of our relationships as well as sex.

Personally, I trust the bible and look to it for answers when I have questions like this. I've researched and looked things up and have come to a point where I truly believe I can trust the bible for many reasons. If you still aren't sure you trust the bible for yourself, you can read more about it here.

Our culture teaches us certain things about sex and how far is okay to go in a relationship. In fact TV, movies, music videos, etc. usually tell us it's okay to have sex before and outside of marriage and rarely shows any consequences. However, that is opposite of what God wants for us. In fact, He asks us to keep sex for our husband, in marriage, and marriage alone.

"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." Hebrews 13:4

I like to say He asks us to keep our "fire in the fireplace." Like I said in the previous article, our fire of sexual passion is designed for the fireplace of marriage. If our sexual passion is let loose outside the boundaries of a committed marriage, it will leave damage (broken hearts, depression, STD's, pregnancy, etc.)....just like the damage that would occur if you started a fire in the middle of your bedroom instead of in your fireplace at home.

What is the moral of the story? Keep Your Fire in the Fireplace!

No matter how much you love your boyfriend or how much he pressures you, God asks you to honor Him by waiting until marriage. You will avoid a lot of heartache and consequences when you do things God's way!! You have the right to say no to any boy who asks you or pressures you to have sex. Don't be afraid to tell him "No." Even if you have to say it more than once. Any guy who truly loves you will respect your decision and not pressure you. If he continues to pressure you, it may be wise to end the relationship.

I want you to know that I prayed for you today. Prayed that God would give you wisdom in dealing with your boyfriend and that you would connect with God in a deeper way and grow closer to Him.

If you have any other questions or prayer requests, please let me know! You are not alone!!

~Shelley
Maybe break up
by: Anonymous

You should probably say "no" and break up with them so you don't end up going too far. It isn't good to ever go too far with the opposite sex since it results in sin and you would likely feel bad about it after you do it.

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