Should I Tell?

by Marianne
(Springfield,IL)

I made a promise not to tell that my sisters foster brother touches me. He made me promise. I've never broken a promise. Ever. I still haven't told anyone about the abuse I've had as a toddler. I never thought that him touching me was a problem. He never really physically hurt me. Maybe mentally and emotionally, but not physically. I'm really scared to tell anyone! Should I? You're the only person I can tell since I'll never meet you in person.Please help.

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Should I Tell?
by: EMMMeRs

I'm going to be very frank.
TELL AND NEVER ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN AGAIN IN YOUR POWER. GOD HAS GIVEN YOU THE RIGHT TO PROTECT YOURSELF BY ALL MEANS, IT SAYS SO IN HIS WORD. DO NOT BE AFRAID, BE OF GOOD COURAGE! THIS IS A BIG PROBLEM. GET OUT OF IT NOW. I LOVE YOU SISTER! DON'T LET THIS MAN TOUCH YOU - YOU HAVE THE POWER TO STOP IT NOW! SO DO IT! DON'T ALLOW HIS FILTHY HANDS TO FIND TO FIND THEIR RELIEF! STOP! MAKE IT STOP! SISTER, I LOVE YOU WAY TO MUCH FOR YOU TO KEEP ALLOWING THIS! GET OUT OF IT NOW! PLEASE! I BEG YOU TO TELL SOMEONE - ALL OF IT - THE STUFF FROM YOUR CHILDHOOD, THE STUFF HAPPENING NOW, EVERYTHING NEEDS TO BE TOLD! YOU NEED TO GET RID OF THE JUNK!
Sister, God loves you too much, it hurts him AND I to know this is happening! God has given you the right to scream your head off and defend yourself in this situation, ok?
Please, today, go find someone close to you and spill it all to that person? Are you a teenager? Go find your mom or dad or a a trusted guardian today!
You are beautiful - when everyone around you tells you different - always know, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! YOU ARE A CREATION OF GOD! MADE IN HIS IMAGE! If you knew someone in your situation, wouldn't you be telling them the same thing???
I love you sister! And so does our Father above!
Love you very much!
Emily.
Tell Marianne!
by: Anonymous

Marianne, Emily is right, do not ever allow someone to treat you like that - it is abuse and you DO NOT DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT - PERIOD.
Is there a teacher, pastor - somebody you could go to? You must get yourself out of harm's way...Let's pray.
Father, in the Name of Jesus, hallowed dear God be Thy Name. Dear God we honor You and bless You and give thanks for Your Son Jesus Christ Who is at Your right hand interceding for Marianne. We join Him in asking that You be LORD over this situation, bring resolution that's totally in the best interest of Marianne. Put the right people across her path and in this situation who are anointed to bring Godly wisdom and insight for all parties involved. We bind the spirit that's trying to attach itself to Marianne by making her a target and loose upon her heart the Spirit of adoption whereby she cries out "ABBA, Daddy God" from her heart. Make her a bold witness for You LORD that comes when the heart KNOWS the joy of Thy salvation and Your never-ending love and never-leavng Presence. Turn this around as Romans 8 says, for her good and for Your glory - help her, guide her, keep her and protect her - we ask it dear God in Jesus Name. Amen. Marianne, walk in the power that comes from knowing that God loves you, and sees you as His masterpiece; that you are precious and priceless in His sight. He does not want anyone to have the power to make you feel like you are worthless and alone. You've been adoted (just like us) into His family; you are His daughter, you are royalty. It's not a cliche' Marianne, not a fable or religious jargon. God's Word is TRUTH and therefore a sure foundation that you can truly stand upon. Keep us abreast, let us know what's going on with our "sister" - blessings precious and get some help. Okay?
From someone who's been there...
by: Heather Hart

From someone who has been there, yes you should tell. My step dad did this to me, and told me not to tell. He said it was our little secret. But the problem was, he wasn't just touching me, he was also touching my sister, and our friends. Not telling isn't just hurting you, but it could be hurting others. Not physically, but emotionally, and for life. This is one promise that you need to break. It is doing far more damage to keep it. You need to scream it from the roof tops to anyone who will listen! Tell your parent's, your sister, your friends. Tell your teachers, and the police! Not telling will allow him to do it to more and more people, it will allow him to keep robbing innocent girls of their privacy and intimacy that belongs to their someday husbands. Keeping it just in your family will do the same thing. Please, please tell as many people as you can!
That's so wrong
by: Marina

You need to put a stop to it! Everything ditto to Em, it's your body, girl, don't let that person put his hands on it EVER AGAIN. He has no right to do that. PERIOD.
You need to tell someone NOW. It doesn't matter if it will be breaking a promise, seriously. This is the kind of promise that shouldn't be kept.

I will be praying for you.
Marina
Another question?
by: Anonymous

Cause you guys are here can I ask what to do when the person for sexual abuse is someone that is in a highly respected position?

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