When the blindfold comes off

i met this guy at work. he seemed very polite at first and sweet. And he's good looking. I thought it was okay to like him because the last guy i liked was ugly but i was looking to the goodness inside him. He ended up breaking my heart by turning out to be abusive. So i thought I was smart by liking someone I was physically attracted to first.

He called me a couple of times and we texted back and forth. i learned that when you talk to a guy everyday early in the relationship, it makes you develop feelings of love. But I've realized that he doesn't feel for me the way I was feeling for him. He didn't call me for 12 days. It was only when i messaged him that he wrote back. He has also ignored some of my messages where I have said something nice or responded to his last response. Rewatching the movie "He's just not that into you", I've confirmed my suspicion that he doesn't really care about me. And so I'm moving on.

I made a plan to refrain from texting him for 30 days and as it has been 20 days now without no contact from him, i plan to make it forever. I will only respond if he calls. I learned that texting is not appropriate for relationships that are just developing and it's bad for communication. There are many misunderstandings.

I know that my story is not completely over but I know that soon I will have learned a great deal and I will apply it to my next relationship. Like this article says, girls should not be physical with guys until they are in a committed relationship and sex should only follow marriage.

I pray for all of you and hope that you get what is best for you. Amen.